Girls Different

It's a difficult problem we all seem to get in; you start feeling for your best friend, or girls close to you who you get along with so well. The problem is, what if they don't like you back? Fear no longer, for there is a way to determine if she likes you, figure out a way to ask her out if she does like you, and hopefully live happily ever after.

As a start the most important element is to ensure that this girl really IS interested in you in return. This is unfortunately the part where even I myself go wrong, in that you assume because she is fun, flirty and loves to talk to you, that she has an interest in possible dating. The problem is sometimes girls are just like this with every guy, even when they are already happy in a relationship. This is generally because they merely love the attention and thrill of flirting with another guy, even if it will never lead anywhere. Not that girls in relationships are always happy, she may be on the lookout for a better guy, and luckily there is an incredibly simple way to check: Take a look at how she treats other guys. See how she treats her other guy friends, those in your workplace/school and so on. If she doesn't treat you any different she probably doesn't have an interest in dating you. That's not to say she'll never have an interest in you, just that you shouldn't make any moves yet.

There are many different situations you may find yourself in, as there are many different types of girls and many different levels you know each other at. So I've decided to figure out a generic system which you can use to figure out how to approach in the best possible manner. This is simply coming from my experience with many different girls and unfortunately every situation is different, so take it as a rough guide but don't live by it, use common sense too J, I'm really just generalizing here so find what best fits your situation and go from there.

There are 3 main categories for a girls social/outgoing level and because of this each type of girl should be treated with a different tact. While outgoing girls might like to go out drinking with you and friends, the shy girls may want something where they don't need to interact with others so much.

The shy quiet girls are girls who may only have other female friends and are almost never the center of attention, often spending a night at home or with their girl friends rather than going out drinking. One of the most common situations you will find yourself in with a girl is this one. Quite often it's that cute girl who looks like she could be really sweet and nice, but you just haven't gotten to know her, instead simply being an admirer from afar. The problem with this situation is that it's really hard for it to go anywhere especially if you yourself are very shy. Although there are pluses, generally shy girls will still go out with you even if they don't particularly like you (this is a good thing, for when you are out together you can bond and perhaps take it further) and usually if you break up afterwards it's easy to go back to how you were before. Most of the ways of asking her out can feel a bit awkward because shy girls don't give as much feedback and/or enthusiasm as others, ignore this feeling for its only going to hold you back.

One last thing that many guys fail to realize is that just because shy girls don't talk much or seem so excitable, doesn't mean they want something low energy like a stroll along the beach as a first date. Going out to a theme park works very well too, so long as they don't need to meet random strangers to have fun (ie. Pubs/clubs are generally a bad idea).

The Normal Girls are the middle of the road girls that are open and talk to everyone, girls and guys alike but won't usually be the kind of girl all the guys' desire. Normal girls are some of the most fun girls in the world once you get to know them, like the outgoing girls they generally have a very vivid, strong personality, but like shy girls they do tend to hide it from those they don't know too well. The thing about this type of girl is that her attraction level to you can greatly vary, and it often has a lot to do with how much interest she gets from the other guys. Unlike shy girls and Outgoing girls, normal girls should be done more on a case per case basis rather than just using a general rule on how to approach and deal with the situation.

For a first date, pretty much anything goes. Clubs may be a bit overwhelming unless they love going out and just dancing, but on the whole generally they are up for anything fun.

The Outgoing girls are generally either hot and as such get a lot of attention, or they are simply the fun, hyperactive girls who love life, being very flirty and out there. Loud Outgoing girls can be by far the most fun however they are also the ones most guys generally get confused by. The reason for this confusion is simply that outgoing fun girls are generally the kind of girls that love to party and are perfectly fine flirting with any guy just for fun (even if they have no interest in dating him). This is why it's best for any outgoing girl you ensure she treats you differently to other guys, she may be a lot more flirty than the shy girl in the office but that doesn't mean she likes you more than her.

For a first date the outgoing kind of girl generally likes something with a bit of social interaction, clubbing works well, as does just a general house party of your friends. The Outgoing girls are generally more high energy and like more excitement than most and as such a dinner date doesn't go down too well (it's sweet and all, but you will probably find yourself in the *friends zone* with her unless you combine dinner with something else exciting.)

One thing to keep in mind is that because Outgoing girls are by their nature, very outgoing, she will most likely chat to random strangers when out and about (clubs/parties and so on), getting jealous of it will only be detrimental, so you need to be able to let her go and socialize by herself without needing to be the only one talking to her all night long.

Fantastic Girl

Most men don't know how to approach a girl and how to talk to girls the right way.

When they approach a girl they keep doing the same things they always do, the things that don't work over and over again excepting a different outcome. It doesn't work like that. Things to talk about with girls just don't come easily to these men.

It could be that you're one of those men who don’t know how to approach a girl and how to talk to girls. Men have been taught to chase after girls and so you belief you have to move mountains to get the woman you like. You need to know a bunch to approach a girl and be good at it too. First of all, you have to find some interesting topics and things to talk about with girls, approach a girl, initiate a conversation, keep that conversation going and make it all work.

It is all up to you if you ever want to be with a woman.

These thoughts scare men off and it puts a lot of pressure on them. And as if that wasn't enough, there's always the treat of rejection which makes approaching a girl a frustrating process on itself.

Learning how to approach a girl shouldn't be that hard though. It can be pretty easy. I want to take a minute and change the way you perceive dating. Most men take it way too serious and act as if their lives depend on it.

Try to perceive it as a game. Don't get emotionally attached to it when a girl rejects you and try to perceive every rejection as a way to learn and become better.

You're probably wondering how to approach a girl and what to say to her? I must say that things to talk about with girls are not so hard to come up with either though I recommend to stay away from pick up lines that you can find all over the internet these days. If you ever want to learn how to approach a girl here are some tips on how to do it.

Special Girl

Many parents worry about sending young children off to school "alone" especially with a young girl. While there are plenty of teachers, advisors and resident advisors available to supervise and counsel students those people aren't omniscient. Parent's worry as a rule and sending your daughter to boarding school is no exception. So why girls are only schools an attractive idea? There are several reasons indicated by parents and by empirical research.

Girls only boarding school are single sex academic institutions with only girls boarding and attending classes. Some schools may have brother schools or co-ed social events throughout the year. Many parents consider girls only boarding schools because research indicates that girls often learn more, gain more confidence and have fewer distractions while attending a single sex institution. The research supports these theories and indicates that girls learn differently from boys. Research studies on girls schools especially boarding and girls classroom activity focus on distraction, teacher training and bias, social environment, confidence, involvement and learning style.

The boarding aspect of the experience is much less stressful for parents because the worry about young girls and boys being mixed in a social atmosphere is taken away. There are always rules in place that regulate an opposite sex visitor's presence in a dorm. Of course rules are sometimes violated and teenagers can be increasingly creative. The daily social environment may be adolescent boy free which is a relief to most parents. Of course such schools generally make an effort to have co-ed dances, outings and activities.

All living spaces are equally available to girls which can be a plus. In my high school and college experiences the male dorms were often more centrally located and closer to facilities. This isn't a concern in the girls' only boarding school.

Less distraction is an obvious benefit of a single sex classroom. Girls are able to focus on school work and activities that they enjoy. Time spent worrying about male reactions to their dress, intelligence or participation level is a non-issue. That time can be spent on research, class work, and building a solid educational foundation. Fewer distractions mean that a girl can focus on being herself, finding out who she is, exploring the world around her and taking full advantage of the opportunities that the school offers.

She will also benefit from an environment catered to young women. The social expectations and stereotypes are pushed aside. Girls' sports teams aren't put on the back burner, decor doesn't need to be neutralized to accommodate both sexes, and every decision made for or by students is in the young women's interest.

The default in classroom environments is generally male oriented authors, achievements and pronouns. In a girls' school classes may be more focused on female achievements and contributions, thereby fostering a sense of pride in each girl in attendance. Girls are not just encouraged to participate, they do participate. Even a shy young woman will witness other girls tackling problems, coursework and challenges daily. The norm is that a female opinion and contribution is valued and expected. Girls are expected and encouraged to be leaders and to be active in athletics, student government and debates.

Your daughter will also benefit from teachers who are trained and experienced in educating girls. These teachers work in a girls' school because they believe in educating and encouraging young women. They understand how girls learn and are especially equipped to provide the kind of encouragement a girl needs in order to extract the most from a lesson. These teachers can provide and highlight role models which appeal to girls. As far as advisors there will always be someone experienced in handling concerns and problems that a young woman may face. In a traditional environment identifying that person may be difficult, but in a girls only structure the choices are plenty.

The number of women in positions of power is still a small percentage. There is still an invisible glass ceiling in most professions. The assumption is that girls just can't do certain things. In a girls boarding school environment that expectation is flipped. Girls are expected to do all of those things whether academic, athletic, creative, leadership or community oriented. Your daughter's career aspirations will not be limited or discouraged in a girls' school setting. Girls are consistently told and expected to run organizations, initiatives, create solutions and achieve results. Simply put girls are encouraged to lead, speak their mind, innovate and given the tools to achieve those goals.

The flip side of the argument is that this environment is unrealistic. Some believe that a girl's only school does not prepare young women for the real world where we constantly interact with the opposite sex. There are researchers and parents who believe that girl’s only schools, especially boarding school because of the living environment, interrupt female and male socialization. Girls do miss the daily interaction that would naturally occur in a co-ed school.

The concept of a girls only school implies that the male presence suppresses female self-actualization. Young women in a girls only boarding school may grow up to view men negatively because of this assumption. This negative positioning plus the failure to relate socially can harm future relationships and opportunities in the workplace. The social experience of being in a co-ed setting should not be totally discounted. There are scores of women who achieve the same results in a co-ed environment. They become leaders, pioneers and focus just as intently. There are teachers who encourage both genders equally and expect excellence from all students. Taking all of these points into consideration a family must weigh the pros, cons and other factors. The decision of sending your daughter to a girls only boarding school is ultimately up to the individual student and their family.